Frequently Asked Questions
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Question: How long before our wedding should we book the Officiant?
It is best to book early. We suggest six to twelve months before your date to ensure you get the date you want and the Officiant you want. The longer you wait, the greater the chances you will be scrambling to find someone to perform your ceremony.
Question: Do you offer a consultation meeting so that we can meet and talk with you?
If so, is there a fee for this?
Except for special circumstances, we require an initial meeting where the couple can meet and talk with one of our Officiants to see if he/she is a "good fit" before making their decision. This consultation meeting, at a mutually-convenient location, typically takes about an hour and is free of charge.
Question: If we choose you to perform our ceremony, do you require a fee to hold our date?
Yes, when you hire one of us, we will ask you to sign the Minister's contract and pay a non-refundable deposit to hold your date. For more information, see our "Fees and Services" page.
Question: What happens after we decide to hire one of the Officiants and pay the non-refundable deposit?
We will email you some example ceremonies as well as a variety of special elements and/or readings based on our discussions at the consultation meeting.
You then start looking through the paperwork, cutting and pasting together the pieces that you like, adding any additional items you may have found on the internet, in books, or from family or friends, that you feel best reflects you, the couple. At any time during this process, you are free to ask/email us for additional examples of the various parts of the ceremony, or readings, etc., or for guidance or assistance with any particular element or elements of the ceremony with which you may be struggling.
Approximately one week before the ceremony, you will email us the final copy of the ceremony. This will be printed as a keepsake booklet that your Officiant will use during the ceremony and which you keep afterwards as a remembrance.
Question: Do you require pre-marital counseling?
No, we do not require it. We do, however, offer it. We have heard from many couples over the years that they wished they had had an opportunity to think and talk about and work through some important topics before they got married. Not so much that it would have changed their mind about getting married, but more that it may have made some of the rough spots a little less rough. There is a significant bit of research data to back up the advantages of pre-marital education.
Question: We want a non-religious/spiritual only/civil/humanist ceremony. Do you do that?
Yes, we do. Our motto is, "Your Wedding, Your Way" and that includes if you want a very traditional religious ceremony on one end of the scale to a very basic, civil ceremony on the other end, and through all the variations in between. The State of Texas has very few legal requirements as to what must be included in a wedding ceremony. This allows for the creation of a ceremony that is as unique and special as the two of you.
Question: We are from...
...Two different cultures
...Two different religions
...An Earth-centered religion
...is that a problem?
Not at all. Our training and education enables us to design a wide variety of ceremonies that include and combine special elements from many different backgrounds and address the needs of most religious and/or cultural traditions. In fact, it's our specialty!
Question: Can we write our own vows?
Yes, by all means! And we can guide or assist you if you like.
Question: Is a wedding rehearsal necessary?
We generally leave that up to the couple. However, we strongly suggest it if:
* You have a wedding party that consists of more than just the Maid of Honor and
* Someone in the wedding party or a guest will have a special task to perform such as
a reading or lighting a candle
* There are "special elements" in the wedding such as the wine ceremony or a
* You want to feel more confident about the "flow" of the ceremony
Question: If we choose to have a rehearsal, will you be there?
Yes, most certainly!* Since the primary reason for a rehearsal is to practice those actions and movements involved with the ceremony as well as the general flow and timing, and the Officiant is the person who leads or directs the ceremony, we feel it is essential that we attend and be available to provide any guidance that may be needed. Even when a couple has enlisted the services of a wedding planner, we find that the wedding planners often turn to us for how a particular element or timing should occur within the ceremony.
Having said that, if the couple decides close to the wedding date they wish to have a rehearsal, we cannot guarantee the date will be still be open. In those rare cases, we can either have one of our other Officiants attend the rehearsal or we can email the couple with pointers and instructions that should help them get through the rehearsal just fine.
*(There is an additional fee to have us attend/conduct the rehearsal. See the "Fees and Services - Add Ons" page for more information.)
Question: If we do not have a rehearsal, what time do you arrive on the day of the ceremony?
If there wasn't a rehearsal, we usually arrive about 45 - 60 minutes early to look over the ceremony location and talk to the couple to make sure everyone feels comfortable about the timing and placement and such.
Even if there was a rehearsal, we usually arrive at least 30 to 40 minutes early to be available to assist or for questions, etc.
Question: What do you wear?
In most cases, we wear a temperature appropriate dress or suit. In the case of a theme wedding, such as black tie or renaissance, we will wear an appropriate costume.
Question: Will you stay for the wedding reception/be joining us for dinner?
Since we are a hired professional like any other wedding vendor, we never assume we're invited to any event other than the one we were hired to perform. However, if the couple invites us to stay for the reception and/or dinner, and time and scheduling permit, we will try to stay for a little while. However, we often have occasions where time and scheduling simply don't permit it.
Question: What are your qualifications?
Rev. Ari is an ordained minister with the Alliance of Divine Love, headquartered in West Palm Beach, Florida.
She is also ordained through First Nation Church, a traditions based Native American religious organization.
She is a Certified Wedding Officiant through the American Council of Wedding Officiants.
She has been performing weddings and other rites of passage for over fourteen years and has done extensive research into the history of weddings and other rites of passage, wedding traditions amongst various cultures and religions around the world, and ritual in general.
Rev. Ari is a member of a variety of professional organizations that have as part of their mission statement a dedication to standards of excellence in service. These include:
*Collin County Event Professionals, for which she's served in the past as Second
Vice President, First Vice President, President and Past President;
*The American Association of Wedding Officiants;
*The Texas Association of Wedding Officiants;
*The National Association of Wedding Ministers; and
*The American Council of Wedding Officiants.
Rev. Khrymsun is an ordained minister with the Universal Life Church, headquartered in Modesto, California, since 2000.
She is also an ordained clergy of the Church of Spiritual Humanism.
She was trained in ceremonial ritual with the Temple of the Moon and continues to study religion and philosophy as well as wedding traditions and rites of passage.
Rev. Khrymsun is a member of a variety of professional organizations which include:
*Collin County Event Professionals,
*The American Association of Wedding Officiants; and
*The Texas Association of Wedding Officiants.
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